Wandering

I have been to many places and not stayed in a place for more than two years at a time. It’s been eye-opening and exciting, my life would be a bore any other way. Thankfully, I have been gifted with parents that are researchers which results in a life with many homes, all of them unique in my development as a person.

Every place is a blank slate. You can start again and fix previous mistakes, make new friends and learn new things. Of course, moving often results in awkward situations when relocating, you lose good friends and have to make new ones. I try to remain in contact with as many people as I can but friendships die over time. There are many regrets after moving, many what ifs and a frustration with the concept. As a young child, I found it amusing and fun  but over time I have come to realise the importance of places. My brother displays my long-lost enthusiasm for moving now although he too will get frustrated soon enough.

Lots of people have come and gone, the majority of them do not understand how one person can move so often. Strangely enough I feel sorry for those who are less travelled, without trying to sound too patronising. Travelling is honestly the best thing that has happened to me, I have vastly matured and gained a wealth of experience that is incomparable to most people.

My sense of self is largely settled because the things that haven’t changed too largely represent me very truthfully. I can choose my friends very quickly and they never disappoint in any way, the relationships that can last all this are unbreakable. I know that anything terrible will only have a temporary consequence because eventually I leave and people forgive and forget. I have a very fixed idea with what I want out of my future and its been shaped by my surroundings, I want to do something I enjoy, something that allows to explore and expand.

There are lots of apparent bad effects to mental health caused by moving frequently but I haven’t discovered them yet. Somehow, I have ended up in the best places at the best times, my education has been greatly enhanced because I have always been a year ahead of wherever I have been and the stress has not impacted me, yet. I don’t value stability and security as much as others do but to me they aren’t the most important things, the thrill of moving gives me a drive.

Home isn’t one place for me, home is seven countries, two continents and anywhere where my family and friends are. I know one day I will have to move from here as well but that’s fine, I have had lots of preparation.

 

 

 

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Not a Feminist

I have had various issues with the concept of feminism since I was introduced to it but recently it has become a view many people hold. Whilst I appreciate their opinions, I wonder whether they consider themselves misandrists (hate men) as well. Right now, the focus is on misogynists, those cruel people who victimize and underestimate women, as a result various attempts are made in the media to help these “poor” women. So by portraying women as victims, are they not going against the whole point of feminism?

Considering myself an equalist, I have researched this topic vigorously and came upon an article that was the opposite of my own opinion.  The writer had stated that:

A separate movement for women’s rights is the single most important thing we need for gender equality.

This quote states that men are basically superior in every way and thus women need to combat this by increasing their own importance. However, male models are paid significantly less than female models and although women are underpaid in various fields stating that women are underprivileged in every career is incorrect. Also, calling women underprivileged in any way is a term feminists should not employ, instead they should highlight the strengths of women and why they deserve an equal chance like everybody else.

In an ideal world, gender would not matter in any situation, and everybody would be the same. The feminism movement used to be a great idea but it is now evolving into an extremist group of women that I would not want to be associated with. No young child should feel that they cannot become anything they want due to inequality and we should accept that though the past was ruled predominantly by men, the future is open to anyone.